Stayed home today and met the fence repair guys. And then called a roof estimator and accepted his company to replace out roof. After that I ran errands - stopped at the lumber distributor, then the larger hardware store, and then the car dealer.
This was a mixed day towards my goal of trying to overcome the paralysis I experience when dealing with people in common situations. I get very anxious having to call and make appointments, dealing with tradespeople asking for help in a store.
For tasks I need to complete over the phone, I am making index cards with the information, like what I need to say, and what the result of the call was. When I kept a list, I spent much time rewriting to perfect the list and avoided doing the task.
Over the last year, the fence became a symbol of my inability to deal effectively with situations which I should be able to handle easily enough.
So, leaving the fence to last, my grades for the other things I did today...
The roof guy - A - called, left a message at his office, also called his cell to follow up. Met him at the house and signed a contract. Though I get a failing grade for not following and getting a second estimate.
Lumber distributor - C - I stuttered when asking for the two items I was looking for. Stuttering and freezing up is something I do in these situations. I get credit for accepting help when it was offered to me.
Large hardware store - A - asked for help and did not stutter.
Car dealer - A - but only because I happened on the general manager outside smoking, so I was able to ask him my question without having to go inside and deal with a salesperson. He did want to escort me inside to do that, but I was able to state that I just wanted to ask him a question before any purchase was considered.
So, now the saga of the fence - D...
The fence was put in last February. Here are some
pictures, if you care to look.
It took me until August to call the company and have a supervisor come out to review the warping, and poor board alignment. It took me until January to follow up. So, today the repair crew was out. I had to point out what I think needed replaced. The obvious issues - warped posts and the gate not opening - were easy. The other issue of the jagged line of the boards was harder. This was attributed to the uneven & sloping ground - yeah, right. We settled on about 20 boards, and I went off to work. While at work, I reviewed my pictures and was reminded of a few things I had missed, so I came back home.
Got those things addressed and met the roof guy. The fence guys finished up, but I noticed that a replacement board was worse than the original board, so I asked them to replace it again. They did, but now it was worse than ever. I let them go, and I undid the board, turned it over, re nailed it, and now it is fine.
Another part of the poor grade is the fact that I could not call the company and get the approximate time the crew was going to show up. They came at 9:30, but I got up at 7:30 just in case. And, I probably would have waited until 2:30 before calling to ask when they were coming.
And, that is how my day went - some positives, some negatives, and hopefully nothing I will obsess over too much in the long run.